Deep In Debt

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How do you help a friend in who is in financial trouble? A friend had his car repossessed. He works with me, he has a good job and is paid well. But he has a problem with handling money. There have been times he would want me to loan him money. I don't loan money and it kind of upset him. 
 
I would talk to him about how I take care of my finances. I told him what satisfaction and peace I had by being organized. I explained how he could apply it to his life. He listened but never took my advice. I tried to keep our conversation on a pleasant level but it got frustrating when he would never follow thru. 
 
Now with the car repoed this was where my patience became lacking. I told him he had to do something different or it would get worse. I said that I cared about him and his family's problems. I said I see you doing things wrong with money. I don't want to butt in, but you need help. What is it going to take to wake you up?
 
You guessed it, he didn't take it all to well. He was quite angry and defensive. He gave me lots of excuses for his behavior. He said it's so bad he can't do anything about it. That he doesn't have the money to work it out. 
 
He was so adamant and entrenched in his opinion. I was afraid this could end our friendship. This had been going on for many years but now it was coming to a head. I thought who am I to to be telling him what to do. I don't have this money thing down perfectly yet. I make mistakes to and I'm still learning. Maybe I should just back off. But as a parent I am not perfect , yet I still correct my children. 

I can see there is a hopelessness he feels about his situation. A comfort zone that is hard to move out of. When finances should be a matter of arithmetic, its mostly becomes a mix of behavior and emotion. 

I'll keep trying to help him. But he's on a progressively downward slope. It's seems the behavior resembles someone that drinks or is on drugs. They don't admit there is a problem.  Then hopefully someday they admit they have a problem and ask for help. All you can do in a situation like this is be patient. You have to realize their success or failure is in their own hands no yours.

Larry Burkett said,"debt is not the problem; it's the symptom." I believe failures with controlling your money is a behavior problem. You have to change behavior. The behavior that can wreck your finances is lack of planning. Planning for today and the future.

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College Students Dont Need Credit Cards

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We have a child heading off to college this week. We are not giving him a credit card to take with him. Most parents equip their child with one. If you do, it would be considered normal. Students are told that the card is only for emergencies. But to a student an emergency is a lack of donuts. You probably are thinking credit cards and students don't mix. Your right, the chance of abuse or immaturity is high. 
 
On campus they are exposed to the wiles of credit card applications. They're offered hats and t-shirts for a filled out credit card application. It's hard to say no to a nice hat. As a good parent it's our job to teach them about credit and making choices about staying out of debt when they have no income. But thankfully there is a new law that says you have to be 21 years old to open a credit card or get an adult co-signer. 
 
Parents hopefully realize co-signing makes you fully responsible if junior defaults on his account. Also if you co-sign you can monitor and keep restrictions on the account. On the other hand if junior doesn't pay, it will reflect on your credit score. 
 
Helping your child is good but doing everything for them is very bad. Sure they need to be educated about the responsibility of credit and debts. Having a credit card without a job is foolish. Having a credit card while in college is not necessary. 
 
Take this opportunity and use this experience to teach them to not use credit like it was cash. Teach them to use cash for purchases. For convenience using a debit card instead of a credit card. Teachable moments like this are great. 
 
Our son worked all summer and put money in the bank to use at school. Mom will be able to monitor this joint account and deposit money to cover expenses. Staying away from credit cards, saving money and living on less than you make is taught in our home. 
 
We won't participate in teaching our children to use credit cards as a crutch because of a lack of planning. The semester ahead has been anticipated and planned for. 

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Book Review: Dave Ramsey's The Total Money Makeover

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Financial Guru Dave Ramsey has made financial fitness cool. Between his radio program, web site and Money Makeover Live Events he 's making new in roads to the main stream culture. I was first exposed to him on his web site when I was looking for some debt help. I believed he was some cult leader trying to sell a book. But under further scrutiny I've been sucked into drinking the Ramsey kool-aid big time. His latest book titled "Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover", now updated for 2010, is on bookshelves now.

His book describes a plan for becoming financially fit. Whether your a beginner or on track, this book can help you. Early in the book he describes his financial life. Starting poor and becoming a millionaire in real estate. Losing it all and declaring bankruptcy. He started a  journey to learn the right way to become wealthy. He talked to many people especially millionaire's learning how they made it and how they kept it. He has a heart for people who have lost everything like he did. Even the day they repossessed his child's furniture. His car was also repossessed and electric shut off. He eventually paid of his debts and began to build wealth. Also a career teaching others how to do it right. His book explains this plan with something called the " 7 Baby Steps".

The 7 Baby Steps are:

1. Save up a $1000 baby emergency fund for a rainy day. Cut up all your credit cards and set up a budget. Also never use credit again.
2. Begin the "Debt Snowball Plan" by paying only the minimums on your debts. Writing down your debts smallest to largest. Paying the smallest with all the extra money you can. After that one is done rolling that money and more into the second one. Thus making the snowball bigger. With that ones done, roll that one into the third. By then your making huge payments and accelerating your debt payoff plan.
3. Finish your Emergency Fund by making it 3 to 6 months of expenses in savings.
4. Invest 15% of your income in retirement accounts.
5. Setup college funding for children with Educational Savings account invested in good Mutual Funds.
6. Now work hard to pay off your home with large principle payments till is paid off.
7. Build Wealth and Give.

As he describes his plan, snippets of real peoples testamonials are interspersed throughout the book. Included in the back of the book are budget, debt and planning forms for the reader to use. Dave Ramsey says its how he got to where he is today and it can work for you.  The book is written on a 6th grade level so its easy to understand by anyone. This book takes you by the hand and leads you down the road to success.

From my point of view,I am someone closer to retirement than just starting, I could see it working. Lots of books on personal finance look good on paper, but don't translate well to real life. In writing a book its hard to explain a plan that could apply to everyones situation. This one is so simple it could just work. I reccomend this book its a good read. I have enjoyed the testimonials I can see how they could be inspiring. What didn't I like about this book is baby step 2. Saving 3 to 6 months expenses in savings could be a waste. You could be using it to pay off your house or invest. He also says you should be getting an average of 12 % on your investments. Its doubtful anyone could average that. I wish he would reveal these great Mutual Funds that produce 12%. Always when reading books you take from it the best information. You apply it where appropriate.

There is something about Dave Ramsey's plan that is different from all the other plans. It's the way people talk about it. People will say "I'm on the Dave Ramsey plan." and  "Dave Ramsey got me out of debt". Do you ever hear anyone saying that about Suze Orman.

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Pay Off House Or Invest?

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Pay off your house first or invest. I am trying to figure out what would be best. I've been doing the math on this problem and I have the figures. I have started with just adding $100 to my principle every month. If I do that it takes 5 years off my 30 year mortgage. If I add $200 it takes 9 years off. If I add $300 it takes 11 years off. That's some great results but that's still 19 years away at best. The $300 would be the the money I would have used to invest. So in 19 years I would have a paid off house and no retirement. 
 
Now here's where real life enters the situation. I have a plan to sell my house in 10 years. All the kids will be gone and I can downsize. So wouldn't it be better to use the extra $300 payment and invest it? I did the math and found that the $300 @ 8% would be over $50,000 at the ten year point. This would make sense for me because I have very little saved. If I had a decent amount in retirement then paying it off would make sense. 
 
Generally the results of paying extra on mortgage: 
 

• Less Stress
• No debt
• Money free to invest
• Security
• Never be foreclosed
• Lose tax deduction
• Cash poor
• Less risk

 
To put the money toward investing: 
 

• Always have the cash to access in emergency 
• Greater tax deduction 
• Market may crash and you would lose the investment 
• You could lose your house to foreclosure 
• More risk 

 
There are so many factors to consider. Its not just the math deciding what to do. The math works either way. The decision must go along with your goals. It also depends on where you are in life. Your income either rising or declining. Your age and how much savings you have. 

 
For me the benefits to a paid off house are to far away. My timeline of selling in ten years makes it impractical. My lack of savings makes it impractical. It makes sense for me to invest the money in a retirement account. Saving for ten years then selling my home, buying a smaller home for cash makes sense. No two situations are the same. You should run the numbers first to get the the facts then decide. 
 

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We Are All Self-Employed

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As we have found out, in today's economy, there is no job security. Large companies like General Motors and Ford can close up. Many companies are going bankrupt and their employees are now looking for employment  elsewhere.  Business are on shaky ground because of the economy. Your are no longer guaranteed your job. You will eventually lose or leave your job.  But was that ever not true? .

  

 When you are employed you think that by doing your job and doing it well you are thinking you have job security. The idea that you work for an employer is an old attitude. You may find out that there is no such thing as a secure job. We are finding out the great autoworker jobs maintained by a strong union are not so secure. Even the Post Office may cut off Saturday delivery to reduce losses. Even the city and county workers in California are living with 15% wage cutbacks. 

You must reexamine the notion of you being an employee.  Don't see yourself as one. You should see yourself as a one person company, providing services to one customer. You are now self-employed. You are your own boss. This entails all the details of running a company. The first is providing a product to sell. That product is you.  The product must work correctly and provide the service need by you customer. If it doesn't fulfill the necessary requirements the customer will not continue to buy the product. You will be fired.

Second you must provide good communication with your customer. A necessary and timely interaction on the quality and delivery of the product. Is your performance in line with whats required for your work.

Third you must provide customer service. This entails follow-up on your products quality. Is it performing up to  advertised specifications. If its not your fired.

If you like you can always stay the employee. But you can also take on new challenges and think like a Boss. There is always time to express your purpose and passion for your life. Cliff Hakim in his book "We Are All Self-Employed" says "Believing that you work for an employer and acting as though by doing your work, your job will be secure - is a relic of an era long past."    

               

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Being Cynical Is Good

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How can you say that? Isn't being cynical a negative character trait? Let's be sure what we are talking about. The definition of cynical is: 
 

• Believing that people are motivated in all their actions only by selfishness; denying the sincerity of peoples motives and actions, or value of living. 

 
If you are young and single you are not allowed to be cynical. Some have suffered disappointment. They may confuse cynicism with being sophisticated. They believe optimism is naive. It becomes their right to be sarcastic. They become so disillusioned cynicism follows. Get over it you don't have any wrinkles yet. 
 
Sorry people, cynicism is for us 50 plus crowd, we've earned it. We have made it into an art. We have mixed our cynicism with wisdom and experience. Something the young can't do. We know when things we here or see are unrealistic. So the definition of this new cynicism is: 
 

• Believing that "some" people are motivated in their actions only by selfishness; denying the sincerity of "some" people's motives and actions, or value of living. 

If you can remember when we were kids and we would be talking to an elderly person probably 50 plus years old. We would be telling some lie or tall tale and they would give you this look. That is the cynicism I am talking about. It wasn't negative, it was a healthy disbelief. 
 
This skill can only be attained by years and years of experience. Eventually, if your lucky, it arrives and becomes a tool to help you through life. But what can you do with it? 
 
Like a knife it cuts through the BS. It slices away the lies and deception brought to us in our daily life. If you have this skill you have great power. People will underestimate you. Your able to make accurate judgements about politicians and your financial advisers. Your able to understand people more and in result interact with them better. 
 
This ability not only sees the bad; it also sees the good in people. It as if you have x-ray vision to see their true heart. It can point out to you what person or problem is being injured in a particular circumstance. Knowing the problem it can help you pinpoint you efforts to solve problems. You see reality more clearer and so are able to proceed to deal with it. 

Take pride in your cynicism. Its a helpful tool that will see you through all your life. 

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