Sunday, July 28, 2013

The Secret to a Long and Happy Marriage

Whenever I see happy couples celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary, I find myself amazed and often wonder how they managed to last that long. Even more amazing are those couples that reach their 60th or Diamond wedding anniversary. What’s the secret of their decades happy union? Here are some ways you can keep the fires burning steadily throughout the years.

Start with a Solid Foundation

Most people believe that the key to lasting relationship is a foundation based on friendship. A couple who began as friends sometimes tend to be more solid than those who started dating because of chemistry. Granted, attraction is important and you feel that sparks are important for you to be able to consider someone else as a potential partner. However, once the sparks are gone and the giddy feelings of falling in love have faded, what else is left? This is why I believe that the happiest of relationships is when your significant other is someone you can consider as your best friend, someone who knows you inside out, and who loves and accepts you for who you truly are, flaws and all.

Set Aside Time for “Date Night”

Ever wonder how some couples remain so in love even after being together for so long? Despite being busy raising their children and working hard to provide for their needs, these people still manage to find some alone time for themselves, for “date night.” This is also true for celebrity couples like Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, who despite their huge brood, and hectic schedules, still find time for a romantic dinner. A friend revealed to me how her parents, who are in their 50s, still go out for dinner or a movie once in awhile. It’s no wonder why their love hasn’t diminished over the years.

Keep the Romance Alive

I think that romance is important in any relationship. Aside from date nights, little surprises count as they help spice up your relationship with your significant other. Celebrate your anniversaries and mark each milestone--like your 25th anniversary--with a special gift. You can’t go wrong with giving jewelry as a gift. There is a wonderful selection at David Yurman, where you can choose from earrings, necklaces, rings and other accessories. For your 30th anniversary, pearl earrings or a pearl necklace would make a lovely gift. If your spouse is the adventurous type, a romantic getaway is just the thing that would keep the fires of your relationship burning.

Utilize the Five Languages of Love

Many a marriage has fallen apart because of lack of communication. Sometimes, it’s not because there is less talking but more of less understanding each other. The crux of the matter often lies in how you choose to express your love to each other. If you truly know your spouse inside and out then you know what language of love she or he best understands. If you both have different love languages, I think it’s important that you learn to compromise and reach a middle ground where you can use each other’s way of expressing love. If both are secure in their love for each other then there would be no need to hear the words everyday affirming that love.

About the Author

Based in San Diego California, Tiffany Matthews is a professional writer with over 5 years of writing experience. She also blogs about travel, fashion, and anything under the sun at, a group blog that she shares with her good friends. In her free time, she likes to travel, read books, and watch movies. You can find her on Twitter as @TiffyCat87.

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